7 IDEAS TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE, BY DANIEL COLOMBO

Actually we live in a social world, and we constantly interact with different types of people. As people we have disagreements and differences, which are part of the human condition. We all live processes that others do not know anything about.

However, with a little effort and a lot of attention to our reactions, we can substantially improve our relationship with others. These nine ideas will help you get there if you continually practice it into a habit:

Be optimistic.

When everything seems to succumb around you, it's good to know that most successful people are optimistic. They look for the good part of things, without ceasing to consider that there is another opposite portion. Nobody likes people who are complaining and do not add value. You must make a decision: what you focus on, just that is what you will achieve.

Be open and receptive.

With people who have differences, gradually seek to open your channel of perception to see what is behind it. In general, there is such deep pain and dissatisfaction that it often motivates overflowing reactions. Once again, it is not about justifying those facts: it is about understanding by getting a bit into the other's world.

We are all mirrors.

Have you observed that what bothers you the most about another person is a reflection of a part of you that you have not yet finished evolving? The next time something resonates badly within you, think about your paradigms -those beliefs so strong that you have made them true within, without encouraging yourself to let go of them-, and observe yourself in a more equable way. An interesting resource is to ask yourself in these cases "What learning is available to me in this situation?" There a very powerful opening of consciousness takes place, which will help you evolve.

Do not judge.

Judgments are thoughts that break into our mind and unconscious without asking permission, in order to generate opinions about almost everything you live. If you give power to your judgments, you will miss the wonderful possibility of living in the present of your life, because you will be so distracted "being judge and part" of all things, that you will not have time or energy for yourself, or to connect honestly with others. Eliminate gossip, criticism, black humor about others and all attitudes that do not help you grow.

Practice empathy.

This quality is essential to improve your bond with others. Every situation has at least two points of view: yours and the other party's. Put yourself in the other's shoes; If you wish, do it in silence, just for you. It is about being able to feel, experience and try to understand from that perspective.

We are not perfect.

Not you, not me, not anyone. Why do you ask the other for perfection? Let go of expectations about how things and people should be. We need to understand this to avoid exaggeration in judgments and convictions, prejudices and prejudices. We all make mistakes. There are some that are really serious, and that will not be necessary to pass them by. In any case, without justifying them, if you can look at them from the perspective of the other you will access another level of consciousness. This does not mean that you agree. It is pure information to complement your vision of the subject.

Think before acting.

Emotions control your behavior. That is why it is essential that you moderate them, especially those that produce negative effects on you and others. Take the time to avoid arguments and brawls that lead to nothing. Keep in mind the question “What do you choose? To be right or to be happy? Make it your motto, and you will see how, with continued practice, your confrontations with the world diminish. You will begin to live with more peace and understanding.

One more thing: it is totally reasonable that sometimes you consciously choose not to associate with people who harm you, speak badly of you, or behave in inappropriate ways. Learn a new way: you can do it in a serene and non-confrontational way. Herein lies the wisdom of evolved people.

Leave your inner war, and not so many wars will happen around you. This is the basis of human relationships.

Daniel Colombo

Coach specialized in CEO, senior management and professionals; international lecturer; professional writer and communicator

Monday 8 November 2021