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Thursday 9 December 2021

First Christmas as a couple: 10 ideas that are out of the ordinary

 First Christmas as a couple: 10 ideas that are out of the ordinary

First Christmas as a couple: 10 ideas that are out of the ordinary
First Christmas as a couple 10 ideas that are out of the ordinary


Christmas in October? Yes, we know, it is still a little early to broach the subject. But if we are doing it, it is to allow you to take advantage of the good deals and above all, to start gathering cool ideas for your romantic Christmas. Whether you've been in a relationship for a long time or not, you always want to mark the occasion. The holidays are a time of year when we are keen to please and find THE gift that will delight our lover. Ready to get into the Christmas spirit already? This is where it happens ...

Christmas is sacred. Because it symbolizes family, reunion and sharing. This part of our childhood to which we try to cling as hard as possible is put on the table when we are in a relationship. Who are we doing it with this year? How not to upset your parents if you don't come this time? What gifts to bring to the in-laws? ... Many questions can arise as the holidays approach, especially if you have been in a relationship for a short time, or if the stage of the first meeting with the in-laws has not yet been made. Don't panic in the face of this emotional puzzle! We have collected for you the best advice to spend this first Christmas together peacefully.

1. We co-mu-nni-that

It is the basis of a romantic relationship, and all relationships for that matter, but all the more so in this somewhat delicate situation that is the first Christmas dinner as a couple. This golden rule will allow you to avoid arguments, but above all to keep a healthy and lasting relationship.

It is therefore best to discuss, well in advance, the organization of the end-of-year celebrations. Above all, do not take hasty decisions without consulting the other thinking "well I thought you were fed up with meals with your family?". Yes, but it's not just any meal and opinions may change. We do not let the doubt hover and we ask the other where he / she would like to spend Christmas this year.

2. Christmas bauble "couple", to personalize

When we tell you that we have a very romantic soul at The Body Optimist ... it's a safe bet that he will melt if you give him a personalized Christmas bauble with your two names. You can even give her her gift a few days before Christmas. He / she will be able to adorn your tree with it. What a lovely gift!

3. The gifts of this first Christmas

It's decided you are going to the in-laws. Problem: How do you give gifts to people you don't know? Clearly, no one will expect you to give personalized gifts to each member. Several options are therefore available to you. First, check out the main spy: your sweetheart. He.she can guide you during a two-person shopping session. Then you can also bring food back to the hosts (parents or grandparents). Everyone will like it, it's not too expensive nor too complicated, normally. Chocolate, wine, cookies ... the trick is to bring back a little something to thank them for welcoming you.

4. A romantic Christmas.

If you agree to have a separate Christmas, you can organize your mini-Christmas only between you, as a couple. One way to create your own tradition for two. A few days after Christmas (before, it brings bad luck), have a cooking and film day between lovers. It is also an opportunity to offer you presents, even naughty presents. What damn spice up this first Christmas!

5. "Lend me your dress, I will put my underpants on you"

Photographer Hana Pesut, based in Vancouver, Canada, came up with the idea for this photo series after a camping trip. She saw two of her friends there (a heterosexual couple) wearing very different outfits. One had a leopard print jumpsuit and silk scarves, and the other remained monochrome, with a black t-shirt and jeans. Seeing them, she thought to herself, "What if the clothes change hands?" ".

So Hana started a series of portraits of heterosexual couples, in which the partners put themselves in each other's shoes. On the first pass, the Canadian photographs them as they are, in their clothes and in their natural positions. For the second photo, the lovers exchange their clothes before striking the pose again, taking the exact position of the other.

6. No pressure

Finally, in all the cases mentioned, we do not get stressed. Christmas is a time spent together in sharing and good humor. Even if you don't find yourself this year exactly where you thought you were, tell yourself that this party is first and foremost to please others. In addition, you will be able to "avenge yourself" on your companion the more the next day in bed. We say that we say nothing ...

We promise, this first Christmas together (or not) will go well! We inhale, we exhale ... Tell your anecdotes on the forum, heading Sexuality, Life as a couple. We can't wait to hear from you.

7. New traditions

It is very important to educate yourself on how to celebrate Christmas on both sides. We learn about the rites and traditions practiced in each family to avoid surprises.

8. Celebrate Christmas on their own

If you are really too attached to your traditions and if this is also the only time to see your brother who is always on the other side of the world, that's okay. Your other half may well understand that you are not ready to take the plunge and that's okay.

9. Start a psy job ... and beware of confirmation bias

Even if it's a bit late to see a benefit this Christmas, but maybe for the next one ...

Dominique Picard: "Therapeutic work is calming. It helps to be less crystallized on the behavior of others, and ideally, to be at peace with oneself, even if there are things about which one cannot. take a step back. But it's the result of a real labor of love. "

Nina Bataille: "Confirmation bias is a neuroscience term. It is taking into account only what confirms me in my identity, and hearing only what is in agreement with my pre-existing opinions. Our brain works like this. without our knowing it. And prevents us from seeing the big picture. "

10. Accept psychodramas

Ali notes a testimony from a person whose ritual of opening gifts was changed without notifying her. Like it was to please her nephews, and she saw it as if her sister came first.

Virginie Megglet: "The family celebration reveals very childish conflicts. It is a wound of self-esteem. She was not informed. Perhaps we could think of inverting so that it is the other sister who is privileged the following year? If we quarreled under the exacerbation of emotions, we can say that we want to reconnect. But the next day, or later, time to find our inner peace. "

D Picard: "Dedramatize. Arguments, spat are often usual when people resume their places in family groups. Perhaps we have to accept that it is part of family life."

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